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We all have regrets don’t we. Things we wish we’d done and didn’t … or things we did and wish we hadn’t … or at least had done differently.

But what I have learnt during my Modest hobbies over the past three decades is not to regret ones adventures, but rather, to learn from them and let the experience(s) shape future situations and choices.

And to try to see the positives in every experience, and with every individual we meet along the way.

This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “Regrets” … just click the button below for more thoughts and reflections!

Xxx- K

This week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “Film” and favourite films and favourite movie stars.

In the nine years of my posting here at Modesty Ablaze, I have mentioned numerous times before how much I admire both Nina Hartley and Jeannie Pepper for the empowering and pivotal roles they have both played in championing sex-positive feminism, and women’s rights in the “adult film industry”. And though I would never ever claim to match their professionalism, and strength of purpose, there is no doubt in my mind that without the sense of naturalness and enjoyment that always shone through in their performances, I would never have embarked on sharing any of my own videos online.

So, if I had to choose favourite “movie stars”, both of those ladies are the first that would spring to mind.

But thinking about the “genre” that Nina and Jeannie are part of, made me think back to a posting I first published on my blog in December of 2013 … and reading It’s Been A Marvellous Year again made we want to re-post it here. Not just because I am included in the scores of videos available on MLNP, but because I still feel the same way about this wonderful sex-positive, and fun, movie site now as then!

First posted in December 2013 – It’s Been A Marvellous Year

Pornography has always been a bit of an enigma for me. Yes, I would usually find watching initially arousing … but often I would find my excitement wane quite quickly as I began instead to focus on the clearly apparent falseness of the situations, or the unrealistic moans and groans of the participants. And then, worse still, I would wonder if the women were really enjoying themselves or if their motives for being involved were dictated by circumstances that had nothing whatsoever to do with their own excitement or enjoyment.

Of all the videos we would ever watch, I would always tell Hubby “the only ones I really, really find exciting are Nina’s” … because for me, Nina Hartley was the only one that seemed “natural” and “real” and the only one who really seemed to be enjoying herself. So for years and years, Nina’s films were the only erotic-movies (pornography?) I really would enjoy and watch again and again. And, when we started watching, I’m talking about video cassettes!! (you know, those book-sized cartridge thingys with reels of black film-tape inside them) long before DVD’s and the internet.

That was until this year (2013) when I discovered Cindy Gallop and Make Love Not Porn. Suddenly, here was an on-line erotic-video site which IS “real”, and where the participants are clearly involved because they WANT to be. A site where real people can share real videos of themselves in real-life situations. And I found that empowering for me as a woman … and empowering for Hubby and I as a couple … because MLNP gives the “video-stars” (everyday people like us) the opportunity, and control, over the content and nature of every film we wish to share.

And it is that word “share” … that for me makes’s the MLNP experience so captivating, exhilarating … and yes, arousing!!! Sharing the wonder and excitement, and personal fulfilment, of our lifestyle with a community of like-minded people. People who are only there because they want, like us, to “share” the things that arouse them about their own relationships and their own life-styles … and therefore possibly, hopefully, may influence others to open-up and express their own desires and experiences.

Of course the voyeur/exhibitionist in me (in ALL of us???) means I have found all the emails I have received from people who have rented the videos, to be flattering and exciting. But it is the “sharing” that I have found to be the most enjoyable thing about being part of the MLNP community.

And by sharing and being part of the community, I don’t just mean posting our own videos … we have also rented and enjoyed many different videos from other MLNP-stars.

BUT, most importantly, both Hubby and I agree it has actually added yet another level of fulfilment to our relationship … that fact of sharing part of our own personal-lives that seems to have given lots of people extra excitement and enjoyment … and hopefully may have made some positive contribution to the way they view, or live their own relationships.

So … no specific “favourite movie” as such … rather a favourite movie channel !!!

For many more Film links at this week’s Wicked Wednesday just push the button below!

Xxx- K