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Modest Exercise #KOTW and #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Exercise 1

“If you thought I’d lost my swing during lock-down, you’re in for a big surprise!” I told him as I began to warm to the task in hand.

Mistress Modesty Exercise 2

“It may be my first session back” I said as I began quickening my swings, “but I have been working-out every day to make sure I kept my strength up!”

Mistress Modesty Exercise 3

“And anyway, swiping bare asses like yours is like a sixth-sense to me!” I said
as I really began to enjoy the sounds … and sights … of the increasing
intensity of my flogging!

For more Exercising motivation and Sixth-Sense experiences simply swipe at the KOTW lips and Wicked Wednesday Rainbow below.

Kink of the Week
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Xxx- K

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Modest Deportment #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Sissy Training 1

“We are going to begin by improving your deportment I told him.

“One can’t have ones Sub slouching and drooping their shoulders!

“Now, let’s have you walking down to the end of the room and back … with poise and grace!!! I said.

Mistress Modesty Sissy Training 2

“There will be five strokes for each attempt … until I’m completely satisfied you can accompany me to purchase that lovely outfit you’ve promised me!

As you might imagine, it was a rather long and painful afternoon before we set off on our shopping expedition!!!

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Modestly Gazing #4Thoughts_Fiction and #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Gazing

For as far back as I can remember, I’ve always enjoyed sex. Not just the physical act itself, but all the mystique, eroticism, taboo, danger and excitement that even the very mention of the word itself brings to mind.


My intrigue and questioning … and then joyous abandonment … as I discovered for myself, the senses of touch and emotion, and power and release, just intensified as my own experiences and relationships grew and evolved.


And so the current themes of both “Gaze” at 4 Thoughts and “Closed Doors” at Wicked Wednesday, immediately made me think back to those first adventures and just how much has changed practically … and yet in my mind’s eye, hasn’t really changed at all.


Long before Modesty Ablaze, I was enjoying the explorations and sexciting adventures that my curiosity … and my wonderful lifestyle … allowed me to indulge in.


And the discovery that I actually really enjoyed “the gaze” of watching … and being watched … fuelled the exhibitionist streak within me even more. Because in every other aspect of “normal life” I considered myself to be shy and lacking in self-confidence. And yet here in the taboo and secret shadowy world of sex and sinfulness, I was embracing the explosions of every gazing, exhibitionist, opportunity I could.


And of course Modesty Ablaze gave me the perfect platform to indulge that exhibitionism through my photos and videos. 


So … those questions at 4 Thoughts ???


1) At the most basic level, how do you feel about watching sex, or being watched whilst having sex?


2) Would being watched make any difference to what you did, or how you did it?


3) Is there a difference between intentional and accidental watching; for example, being invited to watch someone have sex versus accidentally viewing someone who was having sex outdoors?


4) If you are into sex outdoors, what part does both intentional and accidental viewing play in that? And similarly, what do you think are the ethics around having sex outdoors with regard to potential accidental viewing?


And … my answers???

1) Yes, I love both the watching and the being watched.


2) Other than the fact that just knowing that others could be watching always enhances the passion and desire, it wouldn’t make any difference to the what’s or how’s of the occasion, because that will always be determined by the person(s) involved and the exact situation and circumstance at that moment in time.


3) Actually YES … being invited, or in a situation where everyone present is aware of, and fully consents, to the presence of others watching, or potentially watching, will always be for me far more arousing and fulfilling. Because it is that consensual nature of the situation that makes it fun … and exciting.


4) I must admit that sex-in-the-outdoors is not one of my major kinks … I much prefer the comfort and potential for a relaxing recovery and re-charging, before carrying-on where one has just left off. That’s not to say that I haven’t indulged, because there has been several, spur-of-the-moment occasions … but they were never my most enjoyable. So whilst I acknowledge the thrill and intensity of one of those heat-of-the-moment situations, I would never purposefully try to expose passers-by to our fun. Because … in my view it is completely unethical to cause upset or offence to people who may not share the same views, or interests … and that is something I believe should be true in everything we do, not just in the context of sex.


Some people prefer to keep their sexual preferences and desires private, and behind closed doors, and I think we should always respect those views completely and without question.


For more thoughts on ‘Gaze’ at 4 Thoughts … and ‘Closed Doors’ at Wicked Wednesday … simply click on the buttons below!

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Modest Surrenders #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty Human Furniture

When I first began my Femdom sessions in earnest five years ago … goodness doesn’t time fly-by when one is having fun … I was initially surprised with the huge variety of “specific” requests I was receiving.

Some wanted only to worship my feet, some my bottom, some my pee.

Some wanted to receive my cane, some my floggers, some my strap-on, some my pee (lol !!!).

Some wanted just bare-handed over-the-knee spanking, some verbal humiliation, some face-slapping.

Some wanted to be locked in chastity, some to be locked in a cell, some to be suspended upside-down … some to be human-furniture !!!

And despite my initial reservations about many of these, unusual for me at the time, activities … I soon began to enjoy, and feel absolutely empowered by, the one common-denominator in all of these requests.

And that was the absolute “release” and “surrender” that all of these gentlemen were craving for.

The fact that they could, for just a few hours at least, leave their normal world and normal situations behind, and surrender themselves completely. And the pleasure they so obviously feel in their surrender, gives me pleasure as well!!!

‘Surrender’ is this week’s topic at the wonderful Wicked Wednesday so just tap below to explore more!

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Multilingual #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Kissing the Pink

I’ve always admired friends and colleagues who are multi-lingual … and the way they can engage in conversation in a language other than their own.


But I am happy to say that over the past decades of Modesty … and before
I have developed what I feel is quite a strong, and intuitive, grasp of that most enjoyable, and widely experienced, language of all … Body Language.


And there are occasions, I’m sure you will agree, when body language can
be simply magical !!!

This week’s theme of ‘Magic’ … at Wicked Wednesday and ‘Body Language’ at May’s new meme of 4 Thoughts or Fiction, will have much more comprehensive thoughts on both subjects I’m sure, so click below!

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Xxx- K

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A Modest Feministicity Conundrum #wickedwednesday

Mistress Modesty London dominatrix feminist

“I think you’re confusing ‘Feminist’ with ‘Mistress’ … and I’ve told you before, you shouldn’t be speaking with your mouth full !!!”

“I shall expect you to research the two more carefully this evening … and prepare a thorough report for me before your next session!!!”

I am sure you will find much more sensible thoughts and opinions on ‘Feminism’ … as it is this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday
… by scratching the rainbow below.

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Xxx- K

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Modest Holidays #F4T #wickedwednesday

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  • The Beach Scavenger Hunt

Oh, how I’m longing for, hoping for, praying for … a holiday this summer.
So, so much !!!


I look forward to it every year of course … but this year even more than ever.


Family holidays were always nice of course … and over 18 years with our two children, we enjoyed some lovely vacations in lovely resorts and locations. Always somewhere different, always different activities …

But then, when our young ones had flown the nest, we had the opportunity … actually the necessity, to book an early summer break … out of school-term time … and at short (one week’s) notice.

No plans, no thoughts, no expectations, we just said to each other “let’s just do something, go somewhere where we can just chill, no responsibilities, no phones, no emails, just to relax … just for ourselves”.


So we walked into our local Travel Agents and said exactly that … “and we’d like to leave next Saturday”.

I’ll never forget it … the young lady looked up and said “well we specialise more in long-haul, adventure holidays, safaris … that sort of thing!”

Hubby said, “ok, we’d just thought we’d ask, we’ll try the other place around the corner!” (This was when there were still three Travel Agents in our high street).


“Well … wait a moment, take a seat.” she said. “Have you ever been to ……
(an island in Greece)?” she asked.


“Not that particular island” Hubby replied. “But we’d love too, we’ll take it thanks, won’t we K?”, he looked across at me and we both burst out laughing … both thinking back to our very first holiday together thirty-eight years ago.

Some things are just meant to be aren’t they!!! Because it was simply magical.

Not just the fact that our question took us back to Greece. Not just because it took us to that particular island. Not just because it took us to that particular, out-of-the-way, isolated, spot on that particular island. Not just because of the beautiful places we discovered, the wonderful tiny tavernas, the lovely welcoming local people we met.

Just because … well … because you can’t really explain magic can you?


And … as boring as it may sound … we’ve returned to that exact same spot,
every summer, ever since.


So that is why … as I said … I’m hoping, praying that I can add more special moments to my holiday memories above!!!

This week’s theme at Food For Thought is “Holidays”, which of course got me remembering … and then … Wicked Wednesday‘s “Statistics” had me counting all the months and years!!!

For more thoughts just tap the F4T and Wicked Wednesday buttons below.

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A Modest “Cougar Moment” #wickedwednesday

This week’s prompt at Wicked Wednesday asks: “A cougar is a big, beautiful cat out in nature, but of course, this prompt is not about that kind of cougar (unless of course you want to write about it). No, this post is about those older women with younger lovers, the women informally called cougars. Do you know a cougar, or maybe you are a cougar?”

Well how could I possibly resist ???

Modesty Ablaze My Cougar Moment

Because . . . I have written about one of my own Cougar Moments before, in my “Modesty Ablaze Diaries – Part 5” which I first published as a short-story Ebook at my Gumroads pages back in 2013.

An extract from that Cougar Moment of mine is below:

Normally when Hubby and I have a night out at our Swingers Club we will spend the first hour or so sitting at the bar chatting to staff or to other couples, or singles, that we have met previously.


The atmosphere is always very friendly and relaxed and it is really just very nice to unwind in a different, and far more exciting environment, than we would on a normal evening out with normal friends.


And, of course, I love being able to wear something sexy and naughty. And Hubby enjoys me dressing like that and watching me take an occasional stroll away from the bar to investigate what may be happening in the play areas, or viewing rooms . . . and then walking slowly back . . . “strutting my stuff” as he calls it.


There have been occasions when we’ve not met or played with anyone at all during the evening. Or perhaps we may have just chatted and exchanged numbers with a couple, or interesting single guy . . . but for one reason or another, we’d not indulged with further.


But on one of our recent visits, I did something I’d never, ever done before . . . and it turned into one of the most exciting evenings we’ve ever enjoyed there.


We’d arrived early and had been sitting at the bar on our own sipping our drinks chatting to one of the lovely barmaids. A simply gorgeous young man entered from reception and came up to the bar to order a drink. He wasn’t close enough for us to hear him ordering his drink, but our eyes met briefly as he glanced around the bar whilst he waited for his glass. As he walked off towards the main room I saw him glance briefly back in our direction, before he disappeared around the corner.

Our barmaid came back to roll her eyes and tell me “Wow. He’s hot!” I nodded my agreement and asked her where she thought he was from and if she’d seen him here before. She told me he was definitely a newbie . . . and possibly Spanish or Italian.


A few minutes later he returned to the main room and was standing by the wall on the opposite side of the bar to us. “God he is gorgeous isn’t he” I giggled to our barmaid. Hubby put his arm around my shoulder to pull me closer and whispered into my ear “why don’t you go and introduce yourself and offer to show him around.”

I giggled with nervous excitement at his suggestion and replied, “I can’t, I wouldn’t know what to say.”


Usually, couples or singles would approach us first and we’d chat (sometimes for quite awhile) before I would nod to Hubby that I was “interested.” And then it would be him that might make the suggestion to our new friends . . . if they hadn’t asked us first.
 But now not only was Hubby suggesting that I make the first move, he was suggesting that I do it on my own.


My heart was racing and I felt my excitement levels rising by the second. “Go on, you’ve got nothing to lose. Talk to him before someone else gets in first,” Hubby was urging in my ear.


I got down off my stool and started to walk slowly over towards him. I felt like I was shaking so much with nerves that it must look as though I was about to fall off my high-heels. He wasn’t even looking in my direction as I stopped beside him and managed to stammer out something like “Hi, are you new here?” (Yes, really original, I know!)


“Yes it is my first time in London,” he replied in a wonderful deep and rich accent. I can’t remember anything of exactly what I said next. Just that conversation seemed to flow quite easily and naturally for the next few minutes . . . and that he was becoming ever more gorgeous with every word!
 Just as I found myself struggling to think of what to say next, he asked if I was alone. “Oh, no. I’m with my husband. Please come and meet him,” I managed to reply with a huge sense of relief. And excitement!


I took him by his hand, not sure if I was trying to steady myself and keep my balance to counteract my excitement . . . or to parade him to the other ladies in the room!

“This is J. He’s from Spain,” I gushed to Hubby. They shook hands and Hubby asked me “Shall we see if the Private Room is free?”

“Oh yes . . . LETS,” I nodded excitedly.

So . . . if you would like to discover what happened next . . . My Cougar Moment is still available as an Ebook PDF, (readable on Kindle and Ebook Tablet readers), for just $1 . . . or as part of my four-part Modesty Ablaze Diaries Unboxed set (“The Balcony”, “My Cougar Moment”, “A Naughty Surprise” and “Arrivals & Departures” combined) for just $5.

And to read about other peoples own “Cougar Moments” just stroke
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Modestly Locked #F4T #wickedwednesday

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I’m quite used to lockdowns of course. . . .

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In fact, over the past few years . . .

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. . . it’s become quite a popular request . . .

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and something that I must admit . . . I’ve come to quite enjoy!!!

But, it should go without saying that this current situation is
completely different. So I sincerely hope you won’t think I’m trying to belittle,
or make fun of things.
 Because I’m certainly not.

And I really do hope that you, and all of your nearest and dearest, are well and healthy . . . and are able to stay that way.


This week’s themes at Food For Thought and Wicked Wednesday are both about the current Lockdown we all find ourselves in. For more thoughts tap the F4T and Wicked Wednesday buttons below.

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Xxx- K

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Modest Curves #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze curving with friends

“Curves” is one of my favourite words. Neither bent nor straight,
neither callous nor sharp.

A curve is, by it’s very nature, smooth and sensual. A calming, comforting gradual change in shape and direction, that generally makes one feel warm and relaxed . . . and, as in this case . . . aroused and intoxicated. Wouldn’t you agree?

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