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Modesty Ablaze “May Me-Time” #masturbationmay #realworldsex film @makelovenotporn

Re-published in May 2024, (from my original post in 2018), as part of #MasturbationMay and MakeLoveNotPorn’s #metime #realworldsex celebration videos.

As I’m sure most of you are already aware . . . the month of May has been “International Masturbation Month”. And the lovely people at MakeLoveNotPorn.tv are celebrating with a special “Me Time” edition.

Of course, I don’t really need an excuse to indulge in some Me-Time Fun of my own . . . after all, we all know how good it is for one’s health and well-being . . . but I just couldn’t resist joining in with all the other #realworldsex people at MakeLoveNotPorn . . . and sharing my latest one-to-one indulgence!!!

It is actually from a lovely weekend break away recently . . . after Hubby and I had returned to our hotel after a fun Scavenger Hunting photo-expedition . . . which always leaves me feeling excited and horny!

Plus, being away from home, in a nice hotel room with a chilled bottle of champagne was even more arousing.

And . . . I don’t know about you . . . but I usually find that a new environment, and with new things on my mind, make each “Me Time” occasion completely different and, sometimes, really surprising in it’s intensity!!!

So intense in fact that . . . on this occasion . . . I was shudderingly speechless in my climaxing conclusion!!!

You can view my introduction to “May Me-Time” by clicking the preview screen at the top of this post . . . or from >here< . . . BUT, as always, if you register (it’s FREE) and watch the intro video directly from my MakeLoveNotPorn profile page there are some short Free Peek clips from the actual video itself at the end of my introduction. AND, no it’s not like all those other video-sites! There are none of those horrid pop-up adverts and unwelcome invitations. MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is simply about other #realworld people just like you and me, celebrating-in, and sharing their sexuality, fun and love.

I urge you to view, and see for yourself, exactly what I mean.

There are lots more screen shots and Free Peek links to all of my #realworldsex videos, at my Make Love Not Porn page >here<.

“May Me-Time”  is my 51st video released on Make Love Not Porn with more (much more) to come soon, and you can rent it from my Modesty Ablaze Profile page at MakeLoveNotPorn >here<.

It’s completely FREE to register at MLNP and I’m sure you will enjoy not just my Fifty One #realworldsex videos, but lots of other fun and amazing contributions from the growing MLNP community as well!!!

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P.s. If you’ve read my “Modestly Returning” post at the beginning of April 2024, you will know that most of my content here was lost, or corrupted, at the beginning of 2022. We are slowly working on re-instating that lost content, and repairing the broken links, so please bear with us. I hope this won’t dampen your enjoyment here.

Xxx – K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews the Foxy Touch Massager @foxy_ltd

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Whenever I’m asked to undertake a new product review I always insist on taking my time so that I can properly “road test” the item(s) in question.

First impressions are important of course, but I almost always find that giving a “new toy” repeated testings over a longer period of time is … for me anyway … a much better way to properly evaluate what it does, and possibly doesn’t, do for me. And sometimes I know that my slower approach, and slower response times to posting my review, has led to some suppliers becoming a little impatient in the past.

So it has been such a pleasure that since being contacted by Foxy Touch a new-to-me and London based company … a month or so ago, that all the communications since then have been perfectly polite and professional, and without any pressure of asking “when will you be publishing your review?”

And that professionalism is certainly reflected in the quality of their lovely Foxy Touch Wand Masssager

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The massager is beautifully packaged with a glossy white outer sleeve featuring a photo of the wand, and product information and details on the sides and back. Sliding the sleeve off reveals a stylishly designed strong black laminated cardboard box with matching lid.

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The wand itself is cradled in a black bed of strong cardboard with a white USB charging cable clipped into a slot at the end.

Lifting the wand out of it’s die-cut enclosure reveals a double-sided Quick Start Guide card with product operation, charging and cleaning information. All perfectly legible and readable (unlike so many other “product manuals” that I’ve experienced from other suppliers in the past).

Fully charging the Foxy takes two hours and is easily achieved as the USB cable attaches magnetically to the charging points on the side of the handle near the base of the stem.

But presentation and ease of charging is one thing … it is the performance that is key, so … what does it do for me?

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Well … I LOVE everything about this lovely Foxy Wand Massager … absolutely EVERYTHING.

Now as I said in my introduction, I always like to take my time with my new “testings”. I like to see if different playtime situations, different playtime moods and possibly different playtime partners, lead me to a different conclusion about how I feel about a particular toy. There have been moments in the past where I have, for one reason or another, been initially unimpressed with a new plaything. Perhaps I wasn’t in the right frame of mind, perhaps I was too intent on the “review” aspect of the experience, perhaps I was finding the actual operation of the toy confusing or awkward to get used to.

But right from the moment I lifted the Foxy out of it’s box, I was smitten.

I love silicon of course. Always have. And I already have lots … and lots … of smooth silicon toys in my drawer. But the Foxy just feels different somehow. Perhaps it is the lovely dark black colour, perhaps it is the shape, the weight and how it feels perfectly balanced in the palm of my hand. But none of those things are exclusive to the Foxy … perhaps it is just the combination of all of those things together.

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There are three easy to use buttons perfectly positioned on the handle for operating the Wand. Holding the bottom power button down for a few seconds turns on the Foxy at it’s default lower power and continuous vibration setting. The middle button changes the vibration settings, cycling through 7 different modes of pulses and patterns with one push changing to the next setting and so on. Personally I’ve never been a great fan of differing pulses and vibrations so am perfectly happy with that first pattern (wonderfully happy LOL!!).

But that top button … oh that is such fun to play with … and those different playtime situations, moods and partners that I mentioned earlier, have meant that I have tried, and enjoyed, them all. AND this is where I have found that the Foxy has impressed me the most … it’s power. Because it is impressively powerful for it’s size and lightness and in fact I have rarely gotten past the medium setting before convulsing into shuddering orgasms.

So, I have laid out all of those important measurements, material and technical details about the Foxy below, because you do of course need to know those …

BUT … does the Foxy do it for me? Oh YES … and for so many reasons I thoroughly, completely and unreservedly recommend you get “Foxy”

P.S. – From my understanding, Foxy Touch is a new company with a newly launched, and at the moment basic, website. And as part of their launch they are offering a FREE gift pack with every purchase. So even more of a reason for you all to get “Foxy” !!!

The Foxy Touch Wand Massager
Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Very, very powerful. Feels lovely to touch and hold. Easy to locate, and operate, function-buttons.
Cons: I can’t think of any at all.
Material: Body-safe, Medical Grade Silicone.
Colours: Black.
Measurements: Overall length = 7.9 inches. Head = 2 inches long and 2 inches in diameter. Handle length = 5.12 inches tapering down from it’s bendable neck to it’s shiny ABS Plastic base.
Charging: Re-chargeable. Magnetic-locking USB cable supplied.
Power Level: Very powerful given it’s size and weight.
Noise Level: Pleasantly discreet, though once I lose myself in the moment the only sound I can hear is my own gasps and moans.
Waterproof: Yes.
Cleaning: Wash before and after use with warm mild-soapy water. Use with water-based lube.
Supplier Product Link: Foxy Touch Massager
Excellent Video Link: Foxy Touch at Vimeo
Twitter: @foxy_ltd

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For more information and to take advantage of Foxy Special Offers, click below!!!

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The Foxy Touch Wand Massager was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews the Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager @Sohimi_Official

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After my Stainless Steel Rings review last month, Sohimi very kindly asked me for my thoughts on their Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager.

Now, as I’m sure you can imagine, I have accumulated quite a collection of clit sucking vibrators over the years, so whilst I wouldn’t say I have become unenthusiastic about adding more to my toy drawer, I was prepared to be rather unimpressed by another.

And certainly when it arrived, I must confess that the very plain packaging … a plain white, outer cardboard box and thin white moulded plastic container inside, cradling the wand itself with the charging cable loosely inserted beneath … did leave me feeling a little underwhelmed.

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However, as you will discover from browsing the Sohimi website, all their products are remarkably low in price. So is this low-pricing a sign of low-quality products … or is it because they have chosen to keep costs down by plain, unpretentious packaging???

Well … let me tell you !!!

The wand itself certainly felt lovely to the touch when I lifted it from it’s cradle. Made from “body-safe & skin-friendly silicone” it is smooth and soft and actually quite light and comfortable to hold given it’s 9-inch length. And the feel of it, in the palm of my hand, did make me impatient to begin my “product-testing” straight away.

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But, firstly of course, I needed to follow my normal ritual of a thorough cleaning with warm soapy water and drying-off … before attaching the charging cable and leaving it to fully charge.

The USB cable actually magnetically “docks” to the charging points on the stem, or handle, of the Wand and I left it for the 2-3 hours suggested in the manual.

Now, I’ve already mentioned the plain packaging. And actually despite normally feeling that colourful, imaginative and strikingly designed packaging always implies a high-quality product inside, there have been many occasions when, for me a product, hasn’t lived-up to the promises of it’s packaging-presentation. So it definitely is always the case that what the product does, is obviously more important than how it is packaged.

However, I do like to be able to easily read the instructions and specifications supplied with my new devices (of any kind, whether it be hair-dryers, hoovers … or “toys”). So, I do have to say, that I was disappointed with the small specifications leaflet supplied with the wand. For a lady of my “maturity” and slowly, and depressingly, fading eyesight, I don’t really want to have to be reaching for my reading glasses in order to determine the operational sequence of the buttons and vibrations! But moan over … and now fully charged …

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As it’s name implies the Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager is both a clit sucker and vibrating massager in one. The bulbous head, which actually bends in any direction on it’s flexible neck, supplies the vibrations whilst a hole on the base of the stem handle supplies the sucking.

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Discarding my reading glasses I soon, intuitively, discovered just how easy it is to operate either function of the Wand. Both buttons are easy to find, and to press into action by holding down for a second to turn-on and then applying a further short press to cycle through the available vibrations and pulses. Each button has six or seven levels of power or pulse, though of course the pattern path is upwards only, so if you find your next push has taken you onto a setting you don’t enjoy as the previous one you just had, then you must hold the button down to turn off, then turn on again to progress back to your preferred choice. But this is no different from most of the vibes in my collection, so once I know which setting is for me I can quickly find it again.

Now for me, I almost always prefer a steady, constant vibration rather than a pulsing or sucking sensation. But we are all different of course, so although the clit sucker on the base of the handle doesn’t do anything for me, even at it’s strongest power setting, it may well be heavenly for others. (I do find though that the handle is perfectly shaped and sized for some gentle in-and-out teasing probings during my play).

So it is the head, and the top-button, of the Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager that I find most enjoyable about my new Sohimi toy. The head because it is just perfectly shaped to move and rub around and over myself … and the button because I know just how many pushes I need to make to take me to my spot … to lift off, to rub teasingly away and upwards, and then slide it back down again !!!

As I mentioned, the head can bend in any angle on the neck of the wand, but it is definitely not floppy or wobbly. Rather it is strong … and firm … and very powerful. Very powerful indeed! And although it is not exactly silent, it is actually quite quiet given the power and strength of its lovely buzzing.

So … do I like the Sohimi Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager ?

No … I LOVE it !!! … Perfectly sized, perfectly shaped, perfectly powerful, perfectly lovely … and perfectly priced. (Oh, and by-the-way, should you be tempted to order the wand for yourself, and I highly recommend you do, simply use the code “MODE” for 10% OFF !!!)

The Sohimi Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager
Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Smooth, light and easy to hold and operate. Very powerful and very, very reasonably priced.
Cons: For me the type-size of the supplied, specifications leaflet is far too small for easy reading.
Material: Body-safe Silicone.
Measurements: Overall length = 9 inches. Bulbous head = 2 inches, circumference = 6 inches. Handle length = 6 inches, circumference at it’s thickest point = 5 inches.
Charging: Re-chargeable. USB cable supplied.
Power Level: Impressively powerful given it’s size.
Noise Level: Reasonably quiet given it’s power.
Waterproof: Yes.
Cleaning: As normal, wash before and after use with warm soapy water. Use with water-based lube.
Supplier Product Link: Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager
Supplier Website: Sohimi
Additional links: Clittoral Vibrators
Twitter: @Sohimi_Official

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I’m always interested to hear “second opinions” from one of my Submissives … and yes, he enjoyed it too !!!

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The Sohimi Sucking Clitoris Stimulator and Wand Massager was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews Stainless Steel Ring @Sohimi_Official

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It’s always nice to receive a big parcel in the post isn’t it. Especially when that parcel rattles and clinks … and especially when you open it up to find …
 a Stainless Steel Restraint Ring inside !!!


So you can imagine my delight on being sent this wonderfully new and different device from Sohimi … a new, to me at least, sex toy manufacturer.


The company website has a reasonably extensive collection of products encompassing the usual range of vibrators, dildos for both women and men, as well as anal toys, male masturbators and sex dolls. But it was of course this Ring that caught my eye as something rather unusual … and something I could certainly put to good use in my FemDom adventures as I hadn’t come across anything like it before.

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So … let’s get my two cons out of the way first, before I get to my pros !!!

Firstly, that interesting rattling and clinking did have a downside in that, apparently, the postman was clearly intrigued and observed “don’t know if it’s still in one-piece or not?” As actually one corner of the box had suffered a little crush-damage that, whilst it hadn’t split or opened, did appear to be pushed-out a little from the inside. So the internal packing would certainly benefit from additional wrapping (perhaps with crushed brown paper balls or something similar).


And secondly, the locks (more later*) are in my opinion too small to make for easy attachment.


But, as with all the items at Sohimi, the Ring is actually very, very reasonably priced …

Now … with my favourite chambers closed during lockdown I have been unable to do any proper “field-testing”.

But luckily I always have a resident “fall-back” so-to-speak … Subby1 … of course.

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As you will see from my photos here the ring is supplied as three curved sections and one straight bar. Made from high-quality, ¾ inch diameter, Stainless Steel, the curves easily push together, secured by a push-button rivet which slots into a hole on the adjoining ends of each section.

There are actually two holes about an inch apart which allow for a slightly wider overall diameter of the final ring. Using this wider setting, the overall diameter of my Subs ring, makes 23 inches across.

The idea of the horizontal restraining bar, with a welded triangular D-ring at each end, is that the ring is placed over the submissives bare-bottom, and the bar is secured in position under his, or her, stomach by locking each end to a corresponding D-ring on the outer section.

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Now this procedure does take some practice … and was somewhat frustrating and difficult to achieve with my initial excitement … and Subby1’s nervous discomfort.

*It was finally achieved though, as you can see from the photos below. And, as you can also see, it did present a fun target for me to begin my spanking. However, as that spanking intensified and Subby1’s jerking and twisting increased, one of the locks actually came apart. 


But, as you can probably imagine, I do have lots of locks in my collection … all of them bigger. And that proved to be the saviour of our interrupted session.
The longer shafts of my bigger locks made it much easier and subsequently much quicker to fit.

And that meant our session was able to continue successfully … to my satisfaction, if not Subby1’s.


A small black, leather-look, hand whip is also included with the Ring. Though my preference is for larger, heavier implements, it is actually well made and more than suitable for gentle teasing and arousal.

So … I am so looking forward to further “field-testing” in the near future hopefully. With my bigger locks of course!!!

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The Stainless SM Ring with Whip
Modesty Rating: 7 out of 10
Pros: Strong Stainless Steel elements. Fun design. Very reasonably priced.
Cons: As noted above the packaging could be improved for delivery. In my view, the locks are not large enough, nor strong enough for ease of use.
Ring Material: High-quality Stainless Steel.
Ring Measurements: Tubes are 3/4 inch in diameter. Overall ring diameter when constructed is 23 inches.
4 small Brass/Steel Locks: included.
Black Hand Whip: Leather Bound Handle 6 inches length, leather-feel strands 9 inches.
Supplier Product Link: Stainless SM Ring with Whip
Supplier Website: Sohimi
Twitter: @Sohimi_Official

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The Sohimi Stainless Steel Ring was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews Tantalize Me Gift Boxes @TantalizeMe_com

Modesty Ablaze Tantalize Me Gift Boxes 1

We could all do with some joy and enlivenment at the moment couldn’t we! Something to motivate and invigorate us from the uncertainty and unease which currently seems to burden our everyday lives.

Well, I think I have the perfect suggestion to brighten up our days, and nights, and it comes from a new, to me at least, company called www.tantalizeme.com

Now, as well as offering a wide range of high-quality sex toy products, from some of the most well-known manufacturers in the world, Tantalize Me specialise in Adult Subscription Boxes and Sexy Gift options.

I’m sure lots of you are familiar with subscription boxes delivering everything from books, arts and crafts, fashion accessories, beauty products and food and ready-made meals.

But for me, none of the above have inspired or excited me as much as when I recently received my first Tantalize Me Gift Box.

Now, Tantalize Me, offer 12 Adult Toy and Lingerie Collection Box options, including a Ladies Solo Box, Gents Fleshlight Box, Ladies & Gents Couples Box, BDSM and Kinky Boxes and Lelo and Coco-de-Mer Boxes. Or, of course, you can choose the Build Your Own Collection Box.

I chose the Lelo Couples Gift Box

As you would expect, the package arrived discretely packaged in a plain, strong cardboard, outer delivery box. But, as I hope my photographs will show, the Tantalize Me box itself is anything but plain.

It is beautifully constructed from strong, matt-laminated, heavy black cardboard with the Tantalize Me tastefully printed logo on the top of the hinged lid. This is delightfully secured with a fabric ribbon, tied teasingly … and tantalizingly … in a lovely bow at the front. The ribbon slides through a slot in the narrow folded-down lip of the lid which corresponds with a same-sized slot in the front of the box.

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Upon undoing the bow and lifting the lid, one is presented with a black tissue-paper wrapping sealed with a tiny gold heart in the middle. Everything about the presentation exudes quality and care, a feeling perfectly mirrored in the contents of the box as well.

Tantalize Me choose only quality products and those of you who have purchased any Lelo items before will know the quality of manufacture of their products.

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My selection had the Lelo Tiani 3 and the Tor 2 Vibrating Couples Ring along with a 240ml bottle of Wicked Hybrid Intimate Lubricant … and a luxurious 200pp Taschen book.

I will possibly review the Lelo toys in the future as this post is about the concept of Tantalize Me’s Subscription Box range, rather than the specific contents. But I simply have to mention the luxurious, soft-covered, book by Taschen that was also included in the box.

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It’s 200 pages are filled with gorgeous soft-focussed, sepia toned, wonderfully erotic photographs and intriguing interviews with many of photographers models on their personal desires and fantasies that accompany their self-playtime moments. It came as a complete surprise to me, and something that I would never have known about had it not been included in my Gift Box.

And that is for me what is one of the most appealing and interesting aspects of Tantalize Me’s boxes. That element of surprise and intrigue, that sense of something different and new. All packaged and presented with superb quality and attention to detail.

Of course the Boxes are not just about surprise or difference because as a subscriber you can let Tantalize Me know what items you already own and so don’t want duplicates of. They will then adjust the contents of your Gift Box accordingly … even should you be ordering one of their Monthly Date Night, or Quarterly Premium Subscription Boxes.

And you can choose different themes and moods, box by box, from the Tantalize Me Collection Boxes options as well. So the perfect opportunity to try something a little Kinky, or some BDSM themed-fun, or from a choice of Lady & Gent Couples, Lady Couples, Male Couples or perhaps just for Solo Playtime indulgence.

There are combinations to suit all tastes and desires … and in fact, with that sense of difference and anticipation in mind, I think any of those combination boxes make a perfect surprise gift for a loved one, or “special friend”.

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Or perhaps you have your mind set on trying a particular vibrator, wand or item of lingerie yourself from the amazing range of Tantalize Me’s accessories. All compiled with that attention to quality and detail that I mentioned earlier.

So … as I say, we could all do with some fun and excitement at the moment … and I can thoroughly recommend that by visiting Tantalize Me you are sure to find something to inspire and excite, not just for the moment, but for days and nights to come!!!

The Tantalize Me Lelo Couples Gift Box
Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Superb quality packaging, presentation and inspiringly curated Adult Sex product collections.
Cons: I couldn’t fault anything about my Gift Box … but subscriptions may be paused or stopped at any time should you wish.
Box Material: Heavy duty, matt laminated, cardboard.
Measurements: 140mm x 140mm and 105mm deep.
Supplier Product Link: Tantalize Me Adult Subscription Boxes
Additional Supplier Links: Tantalize Me Blog
Twitter: @TantalizeMe_com

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The Tantalize Me Lelo Couples Gift Box was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews the 8 Mode Vibrating Dildo with Thrusting & Heating Functions @Bestvibe1

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You will possibly already know how much I enjoy trying out new insertables from time-to-time. And the lovely people from Bestvibe recently sent me their 8 Mode Vibrating Dildo, with Thrusting & Heating Functions, Remote Control version, to test and review.

As you can see from my photos below, the dildo has been designed to give the “look” of a perfect erection with it’s pouting head, straining veins and full testicles, although in my experience (and I do have quite a lot, lol!!!), no two erections ever look the same, and none exactly like this. But in the spirit of “realistic”, then it is an acceptable attempt.

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For me though, it was the described thrusting and twisting motion of this dildo that had me intrigued, rather than the look or shape.

So … the dildo arrived in a sturdy, matt finished, cardboard box and is supplied with USB Cables for charging, the small egg-shaped plastic remote controller (supplied with batteries), a (very) small operating instructions leaflet, and the dildo itself in a matt plastic, zip-lock holding bag.

It is made of a body-safe, non-toxic, silicone material, but is of the soft, slightly sticky-to-the-feel type of material rather than the firmer, smoother more “matt” feel I am more used to. However it is certainly “firm enough” for it’s intended purpose.

It has an insertable length of 6½ inches from the tip of the head to where the shaft meets it’s balls. These add another 1½ inches to their flat-base before the suction-cup which allows the dildo to be suction-stuck to a flat-surfaced table, chair or wall. The diameter of it’s reddy-glans tip at it’s widest point is 1½ inches in diameter tapering down to 1¾ inches diameter at the base of the shaft.

The dildo is completely water-proof so could also be used for some stick-on fun inside one’s shower attached to the tiles or glass panels. (I haven’t showered with it just yet, but will have an “in-action” video-clip of it stuck on top of my bedroom cabinet for my Pour Me A Glass Members soon).

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But of course it also easily fits inside my Strap-On harness so I am eagerly looking forward to trying out the thrusting and twisting with one of my submissive gentlemen as soon as the opportunity arises.

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When I first turned it on and just held it in my hand, I found that thrusting and twisting just made me giggle initially, but once inserted, and one has become familiar with selecting the best vibration pattern on the remote controller, those motions become quite interesting and quite powerful as well. The actual on/off button is a very subtle indentation recessed in the flat base of the dildo’s balls, but you will know when you have found it, as the toy jerks and throbs immediately (and glows a luminous red). The 8 different modes are then selected and changed with the small, but easily operated, buttons on the remote controller.

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I’m not a fan of constantly changing the vibrating and twisting patterns … I know the one that works for me and so click straight to that setting. But there is certainly a variety of strengths, and speeds, of twists and thrusts to choose from and I’m sure you will quite easily find one (or more) that suits you.

For me the “heating” function is a novelty that has little interest and apart from my initial play session, I haven’t bothered with it since. But I realise that some may find it adds another sensation to their playtime.

Now, as I’ve mentioned on numerous occasions before, I’m a clittoral-lady and never generally orgasm from internal thrusting and pumping … whether from dildo-play or from the real thing … and the Bestvibe 8 Mode Dildo hasn’t changed that. But I do find it an arousing and fun playtime accessory which, in conjunction with one of my clit-vibes or wands, has certainly given me some wonderful fun over the past few weeks.

So whether clit, or vaginal-stimulation is your thing, I would highly recommend you sit-down on this fun toy for some wonderful lift-off play of your own.

The 8 Mode Vibrating Dildo with Thrusting & Heating Functions and Remote Control
Modesty Rating: 8 out of 10
Pros: Fun and impressively powerful thrusting and twisting motions.
Cons: I find the slightly sticky-to-the-feel of the dildo a little off-putting.
Material: Body-safe, non-toxic, silicone.
Measurements: Overall length 9.25 inches (235mm). From tip to base of balls 6.5 inches (165mm). Balls depth 1.5 inches (38mm)
. Balls width 2.25 inches (57mm)
. Diameter of suction cup 2.5 inches (63mm). Diameter of tip 1.5 inches (38mm)
. Diameter at base of shaft 1.75 inches (44mm).
Weight: 411g.
Colour: Nude.
Noise: Quite loud (so not discreet) though of course the sound is muffled when one is sitting down on it.
Charging: USB rechargeable for Vibrator, (cable supplied).
Battery for Remote: x1 23A Alkaline (supplied).
Waterproof: Yes.
Lubricant recommendation: Water based silicone friendly.
After-care: I would always clean before and after use with warm water and mild soap, and dried with a soft, lint-free cloth.
Supplier Product Link: 8 Mode Vibrating Dildo with Thrusting & Heating Functions
Additional Supplier Links: Bestvibe
Twitter: @Bestvibe1

The 8 Mode Vibrating Dildo with Thrusting & Heating Functions with Remote Control was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modesty Ablaze reviews the Tongue Mermaid Wearable Vibrator @Bestvibe1

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I’ve always enjoyed my regular “Me Time” moments … whether whilst enjoying an indulgent, relaxing, morning lie-in (and there’s been lots of those lately!) … or
instead to fulfill an urgent, must-come-quick, need from something I’ve seen
or read.


And though I do have my normal “go-to” favourite toys … which I’m sure you do as well … it’s sometimes nice to try a new “friend” for a new twist or thrill.


So I was delighted, and intrigued, when the Bestvibe Mermaid Tongue Remote Controlled Wearable Vibrator arrived in my postbox recently. Delighted because the Bestvibe website has a huge range of “Me Time” products, for both Hers and Hims, with seemingly every sort of vibrating, probing, sucking, licking and flicking stimulators that one could wish for. As well as quite a range of Bondage and BDSM products too.

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And intrigued because when I removed the Mermaid from it’s packaging (standard cardboard outer box with a clear-plastic moulded bed for the vibrator, remote-control unit and charging cable), I loved the pretty look and feel of the silicone toy itself … but wondered if perhaps the “anal stimulator” element of the Mermaid, might prove a little difficult.


But, first things first: The principle of The Mermaid is to offer a wearable, wirelessly remote controlled “triple stimulation” experience … clittoral, vaginal and anal.

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And I certainly do like the shape of the Mermaid as opposed to the more usual, and larger hand-held rabbit-style, or cumbersome harness-type, triple-stimulators I’ve come across before. And, as I said, I loved the “feel” of the body-safe, silky smooth silicone that the toy is made from.


The egg-shaped, plastic bodied, remote control is less attractive in look and feel, but easy to operate with a two-button shaped controller panel. The bottom button is the standard press-and-hold for several seconds on/off button, whilst the top section controls the 9-mode “silent” (more on this later) options for the 3 vibrating motors. Whilst the Mermaid itself is charged with a USB Cable (supplied), this controller is powered by a small 23A Alkaline battery which is supplied (and already fitted).

Though, as I said, it neither looks nor feels as nice and stylish as the Mermaid itself, this controller is easy to hold and operate and reasonably unobtrusive.


The wireless function of the Mermaid is activated by pushing it’s on/off button on it’s base. It’s not really a button, rather an indentation in the soft surface of the silicone base, with the pin-hole charging port for attaching the USB charging cable.

My first impression of the vibrating motors on turning-on the Mermaid with the remote controller, was that the vibrations of the main, vaginal, shaft were pleasantly strong … though hardly “silent”. Perhaps the buzzing sound would be muffled once it was inserted, I thought to myself, as I had hoped I’d be wearing and thrilling to my new friend during my next supermarket shop.


So, now for some lube … and the insertion.

Now I don’t know about you, but I often find things are tricky with new toys. Just getting used to the buttons, the on and offs, experimenting with the different vibrations and different speeds. And because my expectations, and excitement and arousal levels, are often distracted by the practicality of the “review” process … I always, always persevere … and always, always come back to my new toy(s) several days after the first unpacking and first turning-on.


And, for this first-time insertion, my initial thought that the anal-stimulator might be awkward proved to be the case. I suppose it is always going to be a difficult balance between being too rigid to be comfortable, or not firm enough to make for ease of insertion. And I found it certainly was rather fiddly at first.
But after some … perseverance … I was in.

The vaginal shaft was much easier of course, and so with some shifting and changes of position, I turned my Mermaid on.

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The product link >here< to the Mermaid’s page on the Bestvibe website has a clever image illustrating how the three motors of the vibrator actually work. But although I could feel some of those vibrations, I couldn’t quite co-ordinate my body-position to achieve more than just some pleasant tingling, rather than the engulfing orgasm I was hoping for.

And, my other disappointment for this my first trial “wearing”, was that even though I concentrated hard, and squeezed all of my pelvic muscles tightly, I couldn’t stop it from popping out as I stood and took a few steps. And pulling on a tight pair of knickers didn’t help either. Just my natural movements, and perhaps the gentle movements created by the vibrating motors, conspired to “unseat” my Mermaid quite quickly.

And with regard to the “silent” aspect? Well, even if the Mermaid were to stay in place, the buzzing vibrating noise is not quiet enough for trips outside the bedroom. But having said that, for such a small item the vibrations are quite powerful … so perhaps truly silent is too much to realistically expect.

However, as I said earlier, I often have similarly slightly disappointing results with my first experience of a new toy. So I always persevere and try again several days later …

But unfortunately during a number of playtimes over the next few weeks, I haven’t been able to achieve the complete “triple” connection orgasm I was hoping for with my Mermaid. I can orgasm from holding the flicking lips against me, on their own, or … by using the vaginal shaft against my clit, but try as I might I can’t get the anal “stem” to work for me. But then I’ve always found clittoral stimulation the best for me.


So … in conclusion … it is a lovely looking, and feeling, toy and, if vaginal stimulation combined with some anal tickling does it for you, then The Mermaid may well bring you lots of fun.

The Tongue Mermaid Remote 9 Modes Wearable Vibrator
Modesty Rating: 5 out of 10
Pros: Very pretty design and lovely to touch and hold.
Cons: Fiddly to insert the anal stem and I couldn’t keep it in place, without holding it against me with my hands. But, that may be just my shape … it may work perfectly for others!
Material: Silky Smooth Bodysafe Silicone.
Measurements: 120mm long, 95mm wide, 40mm at thickest point.
Weight: 115g.
Colour: Aqua.
Noise: Quite loud (so not discreet)
Charging: USB rechargeable for Vibrator, (cable supplied).
Battery for Remote: x1 23A Alkaline (supplied).
Waterproof: Yes.
Lubricant recommendation: Water based silicone friendly.
After-care: I would always clean before and after use with warm water and mild soap, and dried with a soft, lint-free cloth.
Supplier Product Link: The Tongue Mermaid Remote 9 Modes Wearable Vibrator
Additional Supplier Links: Bestvibe
Twitter: @Bestvibe1

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The The Tongue Mermaid Remote 9 Modes Wearable Vibrator was sent to me, free-of-charge,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

Visit some of my most recent Sex Product and Video Reviews at my Sex Toy Review page >here< or special buy links for specific products >here<.

Xxx- K

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Modest Curves #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze curving with friends

“Curves” is one of my favourite words. Neither bent nor straight,
neither callous nor sharp.

A curve is, by it’s very nature, smooth and sensual. A calming, comforting gradual change in shape and direction, that generally makes one feel warm and relaxed . . . and, as in this case . . . aroused and intoxicated. Wouldn’t you agree?

For more Calming Curves at this week’s Wicked Wednesday gently
suck on the button below.

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Xxx- K

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Tips when Dating People from Hookup Websites

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You might be faced with a boring weekend and want to date someone temporarily. Temporary can mean one night stands or a date with someone for two days without the intention of marrying them. If so, then sites for hookups that are the best way to go.

These kinds of websites are for people who want a casual relationship. Hooking up with someone can be exciting, thrilling, and fun and these are just some of the things that these sites aim to give its members. Most of the registered users there are not into long-term relationships so there’s the possibility that you and your match on the site understand that a weekend of dating is just temporary and it is not meant to last.

When dating someone, it is important to clarify whether you are looking for a quick roll on the hay or someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. When you are on hookup websites and you already find your match, here are some of the things that you need to remember when setting up a date with them.

Things to Remember when Hooking Up with Someone

Be Upfront with your Intentions
A healthy hookup relationship involves two people who know the things that they are looking for. If they make it clear that they just want to mess around, they won’t worry about the awkward things that usually happen in the morning.

No Stories about Childhood
The whole point of one night stands is that the people involved should carefully guard their feelings. They can’t do that when one of them starts to tell about his or her childhood or other significant life events that happened to them. Hooking up with someone can mean knowing their names but not their entire life story.

Be Careful with Involving your Feelings
There are times when a hookup can lead to a second or a third one. You might feel that you have finally met someone whom you can marry because they are different from the others. But if it is not reciprocated, you can get hurt in the process. Prevent them from scheming or using your feelings against you. If someone you hooked up with does not feel the same way about you, they can manipulate the relationship to their advantage.

Keep your Secrets
Do not divulge your deep secrets to someone whom you’ve just met in online dating sites. Know more about online dating in this link here. Even if you think that you will never meet them ever again after this particular weekend, technology always finds a way of connecting you two. They might blackmail you or ask for money especially if you have a secret that you won’t want your family and friends to know.

Do Not Take Pictures
Unless you decide to become exclusive, do not take photos together and post in on social media. Your family and friends might get a different interpretation of things and you don’t want to be known as someone who has sex with a stranger during weekends. Pictures can be used as evidence and it can be damaging for you especially if you plan to settle in the near future.

Set Rules
It is important to set boundaries and rules. Let the other person know about the things that you want or don’t want to happen when you sleep with someone. You might want to bolt in the middle of the night when the other is still sleeping or you might want to exchange phone numbers and set another date to see each other. Either way, don’t get pissed off when your hookup partner will not show up the next time.

Be Open with Awkward Situations
Awkwardness can’t be avoided sometimes. If certain things make you uncomfortable such as someone threw up because of too much wine during the first date, let them know. They might fart while in bed or you might find that they are hooking up with someone else. These are all totally fine. Let them know in private and laugh it off so that you won’t get the awkward vibe with each other the next time that you are together.

Let them Know if they Turn You Off
There are times when you could not help feeling disgusted with a weird habit that someone might have. If this is your first date and you feel uncomfortable, let them know. Maybe their way of getting off is different from yours. It’s totally fine if you can be upfront that they can get what they need from another person but not from you.

Takeaways

If your current date did not meet your expectations, find another one. The good news is that there are a lot of adult dating sites that can spawn a network of hookers on your local area. Save yourself the headache of going into the local bars and finding a hot companion for the weekend. The sites work and before you know it, you can find yourself with a different partner every week.

As long as you know how to be safe and you establish your boundaries, hooking up with someone should never be a problem. Know at least the name of the person you are hooking up but protect your heart in the process as well. Even if your current partner does not meet your expectations, who knows, the other one may have marriage potential.


As you may have gathered, this has been a sponsored post,
but you won’t be surprised to know just how much I LOVE meeting new people . . . and it has certainly worked for me. LOL !!!
So I hope you have enjoyed reading. – Xxx – K

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Yes – Yet Another Glass at #PMAGW

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As promised in my Pour Me Another Glass post at the beginning of the month, there were several new video clips from the morning-after my wonderful evening with Lover 83.

And “Pink Bob Subby” is the third video I’ve now added to my “Pour Me A Glass Members Page” this month . . . as I turn my favourite vibrator onto my camera-man. I hope you will enjoy it as much as he, rather obviously, did!!!

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You can view this bonus clip if you are already a “Pour Me A Glass” Member, by just logging-in with your updated password** . . . >here< . . . or, if you are not a member, there is more information on how to subscribe from the link at the foot of each of my posts, or from >here<.

Enjoy !!!

**Please email me if you haven’t received today’s update email, as I must admit I’m having difficulty keeping up with the current list.

Xxx – K

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