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Modesty Ablaze reviews the “Stinger” spanking paddle from @GratefulPain

If you are a regular visitor to my blog pages here at Modesty Ablaze, you will already know how much I enjoy my Mistressing. And one of the activities I most enjoy with my willing submissives, is administering some fun “impact play”.

I have collected quite a diverse array of impact implements over the past few years, but it is always fun to try something new! So I really was quite excited to recently receive a brand new, spanking paddle from Gratefulpain.

Excited by the look and “feel” of the paddle but also excited because, like all of the items available at Gratefulpain, the paddle was lovingly hand-crafted here in the UK.

GP use locally sourced timber . . . and kiln-dry it themselves . . . and that passion for detail in their manufacturing process was immediately apparent when I unwrapped it’s protective packaging, and ran my hands over the lovely handle and firm blade.

The paddle I was sent is, appropriately, called The Stinger . . . more on that later I can assure you!!! Mine has a Yew handle, the wood traditionally used for English longbows apparently, but there are a variety of options available. You can choose between Cherry, Alder or Olive Ash if you prefer. But, as I say, mine is Yew and it does feel wonderfully smooth and comfortable to hold . . . and I shall take great delight in explaining the longbow connection on each occasion I wield it, imagining myself as an over-excited Maid Marion exacting retribution amongst the trunks of Sherwood Forest.

The handle is 5 inches long (almost 130mm) and as you can see from my photos, has a curved shape tapering down from 35mm at the wider top to 20mm in width at the neck as it meets the blade. The shape fits my hand perfectly and is wonderfully smooth, so especially comfortable during prolonged use without any of the jarring, or discomfort, I sometimes experience with my more square-cut handled paddles.

The blade itself is made from Ashwood with an attractive grain running the complete 17 inches (435mm) of it’s length. It is 40mm wide and 6mm thick, and amazingly firm and rigid without feeling heavy at all. At least to hold and wield that is . . . I’m told that in “contact” it feels quite heavy indeed. And with a total length (including the handle) of 22 inches (560mm) it is certainly a very impressive looking, and feeling, instrument.

And I LOVE the dull slapping-thud sound it makes on impact. The first sub I used it on . . . two weeks ago now . . . described it after a few hard strokes as “like being hit with a cricket bat”. I laughingly replied “Well it’s much, much lighter to swing than a cricket bat would be . . . and I’m just going to keep going on and on, imagining your bum is a big red cricket ball!” It certainly did leave wonderful red blushes across both his cheeks, without breaking skin or leaving large welts. And I know he enjoyed it because he has requested I bring it along again for his next session.

And, in the meantime, I shall be using it again with a different slave this weekend . . . so check back here for future updates on how the “Stinger” has been received by different recipients in the coming weeks.

My only criticism of my “Stinger”, is that it didn’t have a cord or strap with which to loop it around my wrist as I occasionally pause whilst administering a paddling. And also with which to hang it up in my “Canes, Whips, Crops & Paddles” cupboard.

BUT . . . Gratefulpain tell me that a wrist loop is an option which can be requested, or selected, during the ordering process on their website. The wrist-loops are made from platted leather cord, (with para cord options soon to be available). The cord is attached to the very end of the handle, secured vertically into the centre from the top of the handle, so as not to impede with ones hand whilst holding and striking.

So, that minor aesthetic issue aside, I absolutely love my “Stinger” . . . and I really do recommend you visit their excellent website, from my Ratings Panel below, for more information on an impressively wide range of quite-unique, handcrafted, impact instruments and BDSM fetish items.

Modesty Rating: 10 out of 10
Pros: Wonderfully hand-crafted. Strong, comfortable handle and smooth firm blade.
Cons: Mine came without a wrist-loop, but as mentioned above this is available when ordering.
Material: Locally-sourced, kiln-dried wood.
Measurements: Overall length 22 inches (560mm). Handle length 5 inches (130mm) and 30mm wide at it’s widest point. The blade is 17 inches (435mm) long, 40mm wide and 6mm thick.
Noise: A lovely slapping thud.
Colour: Natural wood.
Waterproof: No . . . you shouldn’t use in the shower!
Cleaning: I always wipe clean with an anti-bacterial wipe after use. GP advise to wipe with butchers block oil from time to time. (Leave for a few minutes to penetrate wood and then wipe clean).
Supplier Product Link: Hand-crafted Stinger BDSM spanking paddle
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This Hand-crafted Stinger BDSM spanking paddle was sent to me, free-of-charge by gratefulpain,  for an honest and un-biased review.

The Modesty Rider:
I realise, of course, that there are already thousands of long-established Sex Toy Reviewers and Review sites . . . most of whom will be far more adept at explaining all the technical details and specifications of things. But for me, sexy clothes and lingerie, sexy toys . . . and even sexy books . . . are all about adding a little fun and excitement to things. So that is how I tend to approach my reviews and videos!!! Just to explain “how it was for me” in a fun, and light-hearted, way without taking things too seriously! Chances are that if something makes me giggle and tingle and feel good, it will score higher on my Modesty Rating.

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