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Modestly Digital #wickedwednesday #KOTW & #4Thoughts

Mistress Modesty Digital at Wicked Wednesday

This week’s Wicked Wednesday theme is “Digital” … asking how one feels about living in a digital world.

Now I’m not really very technical and usually struggle with anything to do with technology, but the digital age we live in has certainly helped me “expand upon” all my fun new hobbies. And, has certainly allowed me to meet lots … and lots and lots … of fun people. Such as Vinyl Man1, the lovely gentleman who helped me with some of my earliest photos for my, then new, Mistress Modesty site.

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Oh, and as the current theme at Kink of The Week is “Fucking Machines” I thought that, as I’m wearing my very own Fucking Machine in this photo, it would be appropriate to join-in there too.

And “Bloopers” at 4 Thoughts ??? … well as you might imagine, this red-machine of mine has encountered a few Bloopers over the years!

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Xxx- K

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Modest Dungeons #KOTW #wickedwednesday & #4Thoughts

Mistress Modesty Wicked Dungeons

For last week’s Sinful Sunday post Something beginning with … I mentioned how my journey here at Modesty Ablaze had sent me in many new directions and on many new exciting adventures.

And in fact I’m not ashamed to admit that I became almost addicted to embracing every new opportunity, and every new path, that Modesty led me on. Some that I would never ever have imagined, or some that had perhaps been a fantasy that I’d never thought I would dare to indulge.

And certainly one of the latter, was the unfolding evolution of Mistress Modesty into what I’d once perceived as a dark world of dungeons and damp cellars, leather and chains.

But I was intrigued, and entranced, by the thought of willing submissives, begging to be caged and beaten, blindfolded and gagged, presenting their naked and humbled bodies to the will and whim of a powerful Dominatrix.

Possibly it was the thoughts of having that power, that control, so unusual in my “normal, real” world.
Possibly it was the arousing thoughts of being worshipped and adored, without the expectation or need of reciprocation.
Perhaps it was a little of both those things.

But as my journey, and connections … and bookings … grew, it actually became more about the fun of the different experiences and different people involved.

And that is how it has continued over the years since. An overwhelming sense of fun and satisfaction with every new session … and every new sensation.

And hopefully it is an addiction that I can continue to enjoy for many years still to come.

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Xxx- K

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Modestly Cucking #KOTW #wickedwednesday & #4Thoughts

Modesty Ablaze on Cuckolding at #KOTW

The current theme at Kink of the Week is “Cuckolding” … so although our relationship is not, strictly speaking, exclusively a Cuckolding one … how could I possibly not join in?

Because, as I explained in an earlier post this week, Hubby does actually quite often get to join-in the fun!!!

But the “idea” of Cuckolding is definitely a Kink … for the both of us.

It started from my confession to Hubby all those years ago of my office affair.

His revelation that he actually enjoyed knowing I was experiencing the thrills and excitement of sex with another man, started us on a wonderful journey of sharing each of our kinks and desires … one of which was Hubby’s fantasy of watching me with another man.

It didn’t happen immediately of course. Neither I, nor that particular lover, were ready for that sort of inclusion straight away! Rather my affair continued, (awkwardly at first as my lover found the knowledge that my husband knew of our relationship, disconcerting and “weird”), with me returning home each evening to relive all the details to an excited Hubby expectantly waiting-up for me on the sofa.

Unexpectedly I soon realised I was as excited as Hubby was in recounting the where’s, how’s and what’s of each nights encounter. And, even more unexpectedly, I actually found myself excited during the evening, knowing that I would be returning home and reliving every kiss and touch … and thrust!

Slowly my lover’s unease about the situation began to change. He started asking lots of questions about Hubby’s reactions, and eventually, he agreed for the three of us to meet. That’s all it was at first, just meeting for drinks, and for my two men to get to know one another. And they actually got along very well.

It still took several months after that first social meeting however, for my lover to become comfortable enough to agree for Hubby to join us in our hotel room, after I promised he would be made to sit quietly in the corner and not speak or move. And so our first Cuckolding experience was christened.

There were nervous flutters for all of us … but I did feel quite a thrill from my mock “headmistress” finger pointing instruction to Hubby “sit on that chair, not a peep until you’re spoken to”. And Hubby told me later he felt the same way. (And this was decades before morphing into my Mistress Modesty persona).

It started slowly, and differently, as it was bound to I suppose. But once we were lost in our embraces the normal lust and passion returned. Hubby was allowed to speak of course … during our natural breaks … and dutifully topped-up our glasses and fed us both grapes and melon slices.

For my part I found it all wonderfully exciting and arousing, and it made the evening even more thrilling and empowering than before. My lover however, didn’t feel the same way, telling me later that sharing didn’t give him the same thrill that it obviously did for Hubby and myself.

But Hubby loved his “role-play” mode of the humiliated Cuckold, and I absolutely loved playing along to his kink (and now mine) of the lustful Hotwife.

That first affair eventually fizzled out as office affairs generally do. And though all of my subsequent lovers were always told of our “open-relationship” lifestyle from the outset, not many felt comfortable enough to join in with Hubby’s “loves to watch” kink. But happily … very happily … for us, we have been lucky enough over the years, to meet several other gentlemen who have enjoyed, and benefitted from, our Cuckold fetish. (One of whom appears above!)

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Modest Leather #wickedwednesday and #4Thoughts_Fiction and #KOTW

Mistress Modesty loves Leather

New “hobbies” always open-up new experiences and often change one’s perception of certain things, and previously held likes and dislikes don’t they.

And that was certainly the case when I first embarked upon my Femdom fun adventures.

It was obvious that I would need a complete new wardrobe … and accessories. Not that I’ve ever been averse to a new wardrobe of course!!!

Previously the only leather garments in my wardrobe(s) had been “normal” coats and jackets. And, in fact for my first Mistressing outfits my initial choices were all in Latex. I loved the shiny look and feel of the garments as I browsed the racks at both of the shops my Mistressing mentors had recommended.

But although I loved my new outfits, and felt much more in-tune with my new “persona” when I was wearing them, it was actually the purchase of my first accessories that really led to my new love. Leather.

My first two items, a stranded heavy leather flogger and a lovely spanking slapper, just had that smell and feel about them that had me intoxicated in a way I hadn’t experienced with my normal leather coats and jackets.

Perhaps it was that rawness … and knowing the intention of their purpose … that made me want to inhale and savour that smell even more. And to feel the strength and yet caress of that texture against ones skin. Suddenly the clingy and difficult to get into, and out of, sticky latex was pushed to the back of my wardrobe to be replaced by lots, and lots, of new garments in my new Pleasure, my new love … and yes even my new Desire for … Leather !!!

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Modest Exposure #4Thoughts_Fiction and #wickedwednesday

Modestly Exposed at 4Thoughts

Some of you may have seen my “Update March 2021” note on my OnlyFans page here recently, so the current prompt at 4 Thoughts of “Exposed” rings especially true at the moment, and I just couldn’t resist joining in.

And … as the current prompt at Wicked Wednesday just happens to be “Two Truths and a Lie” … I thought it would be fun to tease you with my answers to the Questions being asked below:


1) Have you exposed yourselves in word or picture and did you chose to do so, as an act of exhibitionism or subservience to another’s will, or perhaps as an act of self humiliation?


2) What was behind your act of exposure? Was it something you did of your own volition or were you told to do it?


3) How did it leave you feeling? Excited perhaps? Guilty? Horny or perhaps, sadly; in some way compromised?
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And … my answers???

1) Yes, I have … just once or twice … exposed myself in some Nude In A Public Place exhibitionism pictures.


2) Yes … I’m ashamed to say … that on each occasion it was completely of my own volition.

3) It always leaves me feeling Excited, Guilty, Horny and … Compromised.

So … to play 
Marie’s Wicked Wednesday “Two Truths and a Lie” game … can you guess the Truths and Lies amongst my answers above???

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P.s.: There are some clues to my “Truths and Lies” answers above >here<
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Xxx- K

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Modestly Gazing #4Thoughts_Fiction and #wickedwednesday

Modesty Ablaze Gazing

For as far back as I can remember, I’ve always enjoyed sex. Not just the physical act itself, but all the mystique, eroticism, taboo, danger and excitement that even the very mention of the word itself brings to mind.


My intrigue and questioning … and then joyous abandonment … as I discovered for myself, the senses of touch and emotion, and power and release, just intensified as my own experiences and relationships grew and evolved.


And so the current themes of both “Gaze” at 4 Thoughts and “Closed Doors” at Wicked Wednesday, immediately made me think back to those first adventures and just how much has changed practically … and yet in my mind’s eye, hasn’t really changed at all.


Long before Modesty Ablaze, I was enjoying the explorations and sexciting adventures that my curiosity … and my wonderful lifestyle … allowed me to indulge in.


And the discovery that I actually really enjoyed “the gaze” of watching … and being watched … fuelled the exhibitionist streak within me even more. Because in every other aspect of “normal life” I considered myself to be shy and lacking in self-confidence. And yet here in the taboo and secret shadowy world of sex and sinfulness, I was embracing the explosions of every gazing, exhibitionist, opportunity I could.


And of course Modesty Ablaze gave me the perfect platform to indulge that exhibitionism through my photos and videos. 


So … those questions at 4 Thoughts ???


1) At the most basic level, how do you feel about watching sex, or being watched whilst having sex?


2) Would being watched make any difference to what you did, or how you did it?


3) Is there a difference between intentional and accidental watching; for example, being invited to watch someone have sex versus accidentally viewing someone who was having sex outdoors?


4) If you are into sex outdoors, what part does both intentional and accidental viewing play in that? And similarly, what do you think are the ethics around having sex outdoors with regard to potential accidental viewing?


And … my answers???

1) Yes, I love both the watching and the being watched.


2) Other than the fact that just knowing that others could be watching always enhances the passion and desire, it wouldn’t make any difference to the what’s or how’s of the occasion, because that will always be determined by the person(s) involved and the exact situation and circumstance at that moment in time.


3) Actually YES … being invited, or in a situation where everyone present is aware of, and fully consents, to the presence of others watching, or potentially watching, will always be for me far more arousing and fulfilling. Because it is that consensual nature of the situation that makes it fun … and exciting.


4) I must admit that sex-in-the-outdoors is not one of my major kinks … I much prefer the comfort and potential for a relaxing recovery and re-charging, before carrying-on where one has just left off. That’s not to say that I haven’t indulged, because there has been several, spur-of-the-moment occasions … but they were never my most enjoyable. So whilst I acknowledge the thrill and intensity of one of those heat-of-the-moment situations, I would never purposefully try to expose passers-by to our fun. Because … in my view it is completely unethical to cause upset or offence to people who may not share the same views, or interests … and that is something I believe should be true in everything we do, not just in the context of sex.


Some people prefer to keep their sexual preferences and desires private, and behind closed doors, and I think we should always respect those views completely and without question.


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